This weekend I watched a movie where Jim from The Office calls his girlfriend a "fucking bitch". Suffice it to say my world was rocked. Surely he would turn to the camera with an impish smirk and shrug, right? But alas, this was the only face I got:
That is one sullen-looking Jim.
The scene was clumsy, one of the monologues that worked the least in a movie that was full of spotty monologues. On a certain “meta” level however, hearing Jim from The Office say that reinforced the underlying thesis of the film.
Let me back up though and start from the beginning. The film was John Krasinski’s directorial debut, an adaptation of David Foster Wallace’s Brief Interviews With Hideous Men. (Perhaps some of you have seen me lugging around all thousand-plus pages of Wallace’s Infinite Jest? BIWHM is (perhaps as a result of its brevity) an even denser book, harder to unpack and, arguably, less rewarding when one does so). Some people—and by some people, I mean me—said Krasinski was crazy to try and adapt this book to film. They (me) were correct. It shows chutzpah I guess for a guy who’s mostly known for playing bland, sheepish everymen to release a piece of cinema that plays more like experimental theater and while it doesn’t pan out completely there are certainly enough interesting ideas in it to make it the sort of film that at least begs discussion upon viewing.
Wallace’s book is largely a collection of character studies loosely tied together by brief interludes (the eponymous Brief Interviews) which feature various men being directly interviewed or overheard. Much like the film (and, let’s be honest, almost every collection of short fiction ever) some of these pieces work and some don’t, but the largest difference between film and book has to do with the scope of their underlying messages. Whereas Wallace’s collection seems to expound on his pet theme of our inability as humans to effectively communicate with one another or to accurately interface with the world and society around us, Krasinski’s film cuts out everything but the Brief Interviews. In doing so Krasinski turns our focus to the ways in which men communicate (or fail to communicate) in a post-feminist world.
The men of the Interviews are hideous, but they are neither uniform in this regard, nor entirely unfamiliar personalities. They are not aggressively violent sociopaths or rapists or murderers. They’re just guys. But the conceit that makes Krasinski’s film nigh unwatchable (it’s basically two straight hours of monologues) is also a genius method of conveying his message. By portraying monologues with very little action or scenery Krasinski forces us to confront very language used by these men. Language that is peppered with “enlightened, feminist” wording but that ultimately belies its speakers’ total inability to comprehend women. Will Forte waxes (creepily) rhapsodic about how he just loves women—the way they smell nice and all. Max Minghella and Lou Taylor Pucci engage in a movie-long debate about what it is the “modern woman” wants, and how she struggles to achieve it. Will Arnett begs his girlfriend to let him back into his apartment as he tries to explain his indiscretions. The Guy From Death Cab shows up and mumbles.
Ultimately these men, and their inability to communicate, are all meant to embody an archetype that seems to have arrived hot on the heels of the internet (and the subsequent “geek is chic” scene)—the Nice Guy. The Nice Guy is polite, some might say gentlemanly, around women. He cares about them in the way nooooobody else does, and serves as a close friend, confidante, shoulder-to-cry-on. He can’t understand why women always go for the “asshole tough guy”. (Webcomic XKCD sums the Nice Guy up…nicely). Deep down though the Nice Guy is really just a Guy and—so Krasinski argues—not really any different from the “asshole tough guys” they decry. They may even be worse, because they’re covering up their inner hideousness under a veneer of progressive enlightenment. The problem with their attempts at communication stem from the fact that while they’re using the correct words, they’re not using the correct meanings. Krasinski seems to suggest that the result of the feminist movement was only that men gained new tools with which to oppress.
That’s why Krasinski is such a perfect choice for the film’s final monologue. Krasinski is famous for playing the ultimate Nice Guy on NBC’s The Office. (Come to think of it That Guy From Death Cab was another enlightened casting choice in this regard—their music being the soundtrack to many a Nice Guy’s life (it’s also interesting that That Guy From Death Cab wrote a song about how he basically sweet-talked some girl into sleeping with him even though he didn’t like her very much (that would be Transatlanticism’s “Tiny Vessels—a song which is discussed on the Death Cab tour documentary Drive Well, Sleep Carefully very briefly by (and I’m paraphrasing here) the band basically saying, “This is going to make you look like an asshole,” and That Guy From Death Cab saying, “Yeah, well”.) (If we’re being honest with ourselves, by the by, That Guy should maybe stick to making music, and, at that, stick to maybe trying to go back in time and making his last two albums something I would want to listen to more than once (I am saying, you see, that he is not a very good actor))).

After I saw this movie I was all, "More like Ben Gibberish, amirite?"
So the Big Twist is that we’re conditioned as an audience to view Krasinski as a sympathetic, humble, decent dude. That’s why it’s so jarring to see him get so worked up when he’s explaining to his girlfriend why he cheated on her that he calls her a “fucking bitch”. It’s totally counter to the character of Jim on The Office. But out in the real world there are plenty of Nice Jims from The Office who have no reason not to act this way. Krasinski stumbles over the line enough to make me believe that he may actually just be a nice guy (as opposed to a Nice Guy) who has never called anyone a bitch in his life, but the damage is done. As an audience we can’t put our trust in the Nice Guy anymore. (As another aside, it’s really a shame that Krasinski mangles this monologue because it’s really an effective story in book form (though in the book the speech is not directed at a girlfriend and the “fucking bitch” outburst reads more like a man so stunted by the societal expectations that he remain emotionless that he cannot communicate on any level what for him was an actual spiritual, enlightening moment rather than a spoiled asshole trying to justify his infidelity)).
My favorite monologue in the movie though (barring Frankie Faison’s story about his bathroom attendant-father—a monologue that doesn’t fit thematically into the movie that exists, but would fit beautifully into the movie that would have existed if the movie could reasonably have been expected to hew any closer to the source material) comes via Detective Stabler. Christopher Meloni plays an oily executive who is overheard discussing a recent business trip with his friend, wherein he encountered a woman at the airport who was completely devastated by her lover not showing up on his flight, and, effectively, ending their relationship. Stabler spins a yarn about how he consoled that woman and the way he tells it one would assume that he connected with this woman on an intensely deep and personal level. That he was so overwhelmed by the sight of her grief that he sought to console her to offer her a moment of respite and humanity in a world lacking both. Spoiler alert: he was just trying to bang her. Meloni in that scene reminded me of Aaron Eckhart’s character in Neil LaBute’s In the Company of Men and it was then that I was reminded that the myth of the Nice Guy was being debunked as far back as 1997.
In the Company of Men details a "game" that two executives, Chad and Howard (played by Aaron Eckhart and Matt Malloy, respectively) take it upon themselves to play in order to bring some dignity back to their lives as men (dignity robbed from them by the world at large, but mostly "these women, getting out of line" as Howard puts it). The rules of the game are simple, Chad and Howard will seduce a woman (deaf secretary Christine, played by Stacy Edwards), then reveal to her that they were only pretending to love her, leaving her devastated and putting her (and by proxy, womankind) in her place. (It's been almost fifteen years since this movie came out by the way, so I'm going to be pretty liberal with the spoilers, such as they are.)
Anyway, ItCoM is ostensibly about power structures in general, really more a scathing indictment of the corporate, capitalist structure that puts white men in power and constantly struggling for more than anything else (its most uncomfortable scene doesn't even have to do with the "game", it involves Two Face casually harassing a young black intern)--especially given that the real focus of Chad and Howard's "game" turns out to be Howard himself--but it cannot be denied that LaBute reserves a special amount of ire for the way he views men to fundamentally be.
Early in the film Chad and Howard bemoan the state of their personal and professional lives, the troubles in which they blame solely on women and not, for example, their own need for power and control. In this way ItCoM echoes BIwHM, insomuch as it examines how men have reacted to growing up in a postfeminist world. (Another film that examines this is Fight Club, but FC doesn't really have any place for women in its world so it can hardly be considered postfeminist). Where Krasinski suggests a subtly insidious world lurking beneath the Nice Guy exterior however, LaBute sees only venom and rage.
The really scary thing about ItCoM though is how complicit the audience is made in the "game" that's being played on Christine. We're let in on the details at beginning and it's like a secret that we keep with Chad and Howard. As we the movie goes on we are forced to watch Chad and Howard and Christine's courtship knowing full well what the endgame entails. There's even a scene early on where Chad leaves Howard and says, "Let's hurt somebody," but Howard is already gone. Chad is speaking to himself sure, but he's also speaking to the audience.
That scene and its borderline breaking of the fourth wall reminded me of Michael Haneke's Funny Games and much like that film, ItCoM seems more that willing to blame the audience for its participation--not only as a passive audience watching a movie but as a passive audience (and thus enabler) of an unjust and hideous world. We're going to feel Just Plain Awful and it's our fault for being there in the first place.
Howard is ItCoM's Nice Guy. He's introduced as a spurned lover (or really, if you listen closely, more of a stalker, as he describes sitting outside his ex-fiance's house at four in the morning) and he's the one who seems ambivalent about the whole "game". He's even the one who feels like he's fallen in love with Christine. We've spent the whole movie with him so we're privy to the cracks in his Nice Guy facade, but until the final act he's portrayed as weak enough that we cannot be faulted for seeing him as merely a pawn in Chad's scheme. Maybe he's not bad, we think, just easily led.
But then Howard comes apart at the seams and it's every bit as jarring as Krasinski's "fucking bitch". Malloy has portrayed Howard as a pathetic, milquetoast schmuck up until this point so it's shocking when we see him violently confront Christine in his car:

He explodes, pressing Christine up against the window, berating her "stupid retard voice" and then giving away the "game". And yet Howard maintains that he's the Nice Guy. That Chad is the evil one, and that he's the one who deserves to be with her.
There's a Big Twist Ending in this film too, and it's a bit of a mindfuck when you realize that Chad (who, it turns out, is happily married, has never really been wronged personally by women and was sort of just playing the "game" because he felt like it) is a Nice Guy as well. We just don't get to see him throughout the movie with his Nice Guy face on, suggesting that one of the most revolting characters ever put on screen could, if we caught him at a different time, have come off much differently.
The outlook is bleak then, if we take these movies to represent reality. Are we doing comments for this blog for this class? Because I'd love to hear from anybody who had a view regarding how they feel the world has shaped up after the introduction of the modern feminist movement. Personally I'm still mulling it over, but for my part I was not entirely surprised by the men portrayed in these films, hideous as they may be.